After preaching on encouragement on Sunday, I received this very discouraging letter in the mail on Monday. . . .
My husband and I visited your church two weeks ago. We were disappointed. Your focus was in reaching out and loving one another especially new people. No one even spoke to us let alone reached out and loved us.
The usher seated us next to a "doctor" like I was supposed to be impressed!!?? He took notes BUT never greeted us at any time. Some kind of love! This is very common in churches today. I experience this all the time. So, if people aren't going to love one another-then stop talking about it.
We now attend a 20% friendly church but no one goes beyond a handshake. You have 1,000 members so you may not need to grow, so stop talking about loving one another unless you demonstrate it.
On Christ the Solid Rock I stand all other ground is sinking sand.Love, Sandy & Stan
Did these folks come in with a chip on their shoulder? Maybe.
Would their experience have been different if they would have come in assuming the best and actively engaging themselves? Probably.
But the fact remains, we didn't overcome their preconceived notions and chip. We didn't win them over. We let them get away without a warm GraceSLO welcome.
No address or other contact info, no last names, no way to reach out and try and connect.
Sad. I'm bummed.